hey girl!

Jun 17, 2009 at 5:04 PM
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the crazy girl from the social networking site sent me an e-mail. i don't like her.

she started out with the "hey girl!" thing (which i dispise) and thanked me for showing her around bay view (milwaukee neighborhood). she said something about getting together again.

matt said it was mean of me to not respond to her if i don't want to hang out with her again, but i explained that if i were dating her, i would, but seeing as though we were hanging out as friends...once...i don't necessarily think i owe her an explanation.

thoughts? opinions? i know it's kinda mean to ignore her, but what am i supposed to say to her? "i'm sorry, but i thought you were a man-hungry woman who lied about her age. i think it's weird that you live with your parents at 30+ years old and can't maintain a normal job. oh, and i also think you're a flake."

is ignoring her worse than lying to her?

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imo, there is never any good excuse to lie, it is always best to be honest. you'll either hurt her feelings unintentionally, or this will drag out and be even more annoying. once you get on that train it's hard to step off.

i don't think that you owe her anything. you two met up, did what you had planned to do, and that was that. it's great that she seemed to have had a great time and likes you, but you don't feel the same and that is perfectly alright. people don't have to like everybody they meet.

it's not like you made any sort of long-term commitment, or like you said, are dating her or something. and you don't know each other.

i agree with you - if you don't like her and have a bad feeling about it, let it go and move on with your life. goodluck!

^ and in case that didn't make sense (i'm in a distracting atmosphere at the moment) i'm saying lying to her would be worse than ignoring her in my opinion.

I don't think you owe her anything. I don't know what you could say to her either. In this case, I think ignoring her is the kinder option. Hopefully she takes the hint or something.

I mean, it's true... what are you going to say to her? "I'm sorry, but I didn't feel the same way. I was trying to think of excuses to leave."

... What does Matt think you should tell her?

valerie replied to Christina <3’s comment:
Jun 18, 2009
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i don't know - i think he thinks I should let her know that i'm not interested in hanging out with her so that i'm not like "leading her on" or something, but i told him that it's not like we have feelings for eachother or anything. she's just a girl i got drinks with and that's it.

valerie replied to six-string gypsy’s comment:
Jun 18, 2009
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i agree - i feel like if i even venture into telling her that i don't want to hang out with her, i'll end up sugar coating it so much that it would be a lie...or at least not the whole truth. she has other friends and i can't imagine i'm that important to her that if i don't return her call she'd be devastated or anything.

i think that ignoring her is way better then lying to her

coming from someone who ignores rather then lies.lol

thanks elyse - that's what i think too!

I had a best friend of ...college subtracted by childhood...like over a decade. Our friendship was waning for a few years, but when I found out something about him I decided we stopped being friends a long time ago. I never confronted it with him, I just stopped talking to him entirely. I think he got the point after a year or two.

Point being if ignoring worked in THAT situation, you should be good.